Good morning ( zaoshang hao)!
China has been far from perfect for me and I have had some real challenges already being here, but my greatest fear of all was my family would break coming here. Realistically we had no idea how to plan for the unknown. You really don’t know what you going to get doing something like this until you do it. Just because everyone else thinks it’s great doesn’t mean it’s going to be great for you. I mentally prepared myself for China over the the last 6 months. I have used some of the techniques I learned from boxing to mentally prepare for moments I thought I was going to have in China. I tell myself daily “I refuse to let China beat me”. I’m not going to lie either, I’ve had a few rough days already. Mary took off at the end of week one, and looks like at the end of week 2 she is going to leave again. You can’t prepare for that, that’s something you have to be mentally strong for. It’s always going to be something here in China. The internet sucks, my wife traveling, kids in school, my phone never works, learning WeChat which I can’t stand, the language barrier is sometimes brutal, not being able to get in a car and just go, but all that is peanuts because we are strong as a family, and have each other’s backs. Our communication with each other has been stellar. We have had one moment where I approached Mary and I was worried, but we got through it because we talked it out.
I’ve knocked myself plenty before on social media and in real life and said “I’m just not enough being a Domestic Engineer”. But, maybe sometimes in life when you really look at your life your right where your suppose to be doing what your suppose to be doing. Maybe I don’t make the big bucks, or have a flamboyant job, but I’m keeping my family together maybe through one of the biggest challenges we are ever going to face in life. I refuse to let my family break, or not succeed in life. If they succeed I succeed, and I can totally live with that.